Perfectionist explains why you should make an embrace error

I want you to imagine yourself in my shoes for a second

You're 20 years old, and it's the summer between the third and fourth senior year. (For the lot reading this, it's probably easy to imagine, because you're there.) You have what you think is one of the best summer jobs, and you have to work directly with a career mentor-someone you look

Yeah, and you're a perfectionist. A big one. It helped you a lot in your career

Now, when I look back, it doesn't seem like a failure

Now that you're in the right position, let me tell you about the mistake I had in my career. When I look back, it doesn't seem like a failure, but that's why I decided to tell you about it -- because when it happened, I was at the point of my life, just like where you are, where each misstep feels like the biggest thing

During this summer, I had the privilege of working with the University of Ryerson, and more specifically, for a supervisor who was a mentor and taught me a lot of what I was using on this day in social marketing and history

My boss was very well known for his work, and he respected himself in higher education as one of the people in charge of this work, and he brings into this space the students ' digital contacts. He has also become a reverse speaker. In fact, he showed me that to speak for gio-to tell people about your ideas-actually can be a job. Ever since I know, it's gonna be a big part of my life and my career

It was my chance for all my skills to work and start building my speech

This is all the same-the perfect combination of what I like in journalism with an alert that I like in education, with the addition to productivity. So you can imagine my admiration when this boss invited me to join him on digital students for one of the other divisions of the university. As Sheryl Sandberg would say, I leaned over and said yes. It was my chance for all my skills to work and start building my speech

Now you need to know about yourself that I was a perfectionist, and before that, I found a great success in my work in social marketing and in broadcast journalism, but I was still young. I was gonna talk about my job. That would be easy, right? Well, something's wrong ... obviously

My boss and I gave that presentation. After that, we received a lot of positive feedback. I thought it went well. My boss doesn't think otherwise. As soon as we left, he told me:

" This was 6 out of 10. I lost the number of times you said "right"? and other reduction dialogs. If you do that again, I will never allow you to attend me again. "

If you're a perfectionist, you know how it will crush this feedback. I was ashamed that I was not very well behav'ed and ashamed that I could dishonor him. It was very similar to me, not very well. I was shocked

It was when I learned one of my life lessons, accepted criticism and feedback

After you miss the review for a few days and you've been thinking about what I've done wrong, I've decided to stop wasting my time and just ask my boss about what I can do, and how. It was very constructive and gave concrete examples and strategies for improvement

It was when I learned one of my life lessons, accepted criticism and feedback. Very often you will only hear good reviews. In general, people in the audience aren't going to come up and say, "You suck." In order to be better, we must be open to critical feedback, and in fact, we may have to find it (something I still practice)

After that interaction with my boss, I was motivated to be the best speaker and I should have been working. Fast forward. I'm going to speak and learn to live. As a rule, I have lost all conversations (umms, ahhs, rights, and so on), and I have worked hard to reduce the upward trend towards the end of my proposals, which makes everything sound like a question. I've done a lot of

What I think is more important is how we jump out of failure

If you feel the same stress right now, remember that everything can work well if you're in it. The other side of the criticism requires a golden skill of sustainability. We always want to focus on how people failed, but "unsuccessfully" looks different for everyone. What I think is more important is how we jump out of failure

This very act of return and learning from failure is a sustainability, and it is necessary to heal the criticism. Oh, by the way, yeah

Start working on these skills now, and I believe you can win any "failure" that goes your way

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Bailey is one of the top 100 most influential women in Canada. She is the founder and CEO of SkillSKamp, a public speaker, a specialist in branding and laureates of the digital marquater. We assume she won't sleep